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Wisdom for Parents: Be attentive without being intrusive; be interested without being obsessed; give guidance without demanding compliance.----Michael Josephson
Michael Josephson is one of the people in 'my village' of child raising. One of his meaningful poems I live by is called:
WHAT WILL MATTER
Ready or not,
someday it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises,
no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected,
whether treasured or forgotten,
will pass to someone else.
fame and temporal power
will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owed
or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations,
and jealousies will finally disappear.
So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans,
and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses
that once seemed so important
will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from,
or on what side of the tracks you lived,
at the end.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.
So what will matter?
How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter is not what you bought,
but what you built;
not what you got,
but what you gave?
What will matter is not your success,
but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned,
but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity,
courage or sacrifice that enriched,
empowered or encouraged others
to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence,
but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew,
but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.
What will matter is not your memories,
but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered,
by whom and for what.
Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.
How to live happily with chronic kidney failure
Dialysis does not lower your libido. Maybe initially, but as long as you still have blood running through your veins, you got to have it when you want it. If you have a catheter in your abdomen for the PD dialysis then roast chicken style is just out of the question. You certainly do not want anyone pressing on your vital catheter. Besides, the fullness of your stomach from all the dialysis fluid stored in there renders that action not pleasurable. Get creative folks. I am not suggesting that you become some acrobat or you get into 101 ways to please your lover. If you are young, go for it. But, if you are like me, with age on your body, you need to lie down. Can't stand up and touch my toes. I would surely fall over and damage my catheter. If you have ever had a colonoscopy you will get the drift. For those who haven't and are still waiting for the big bang, just lie on your side in the fetal position and get your action.
If you are on hemodialysis, then you do not need to worry about catheter in your stomach. But, rather the one in your neck. You can enjoy your roast chicken style but you still need to worry in the heat of the action, your neck catheter does not get ripped off. Go for the colonoscopy style.
If you are fortunate to have the button hole in your arm to do your dialysis, then by all means go for your avalanche of throbbing pleasure any way you want. But wait. You got to worry about putting too much weight on your arm, hence you have to do the balancing act.
Now let us not forget that love making is not only penetration. Intimacy, holding hands, taking
small or long walks, dancing, laughing together, communicating, taking out the garbage, doing
the dishes, occasionally accompanying your partner to dialysis sessions, having a meal waiting
after dialysis or buying a meal and have it waiting. Whatever works for your budget.
For the men out there---Just remember, no one is looking for you to be Superman in the bedroom. Take your time and work with what you've got. Spend more time with the prelude.
After all, you want that three minutes to look more like 40 minutes.
As a single parent my sons did not grow up with guidance from their father and as it has been said, "It takes a village to raise a child." My village consisted of my siblings, dad, lovers, a few close friends, Malcolm, poems, books and quotations.
During my working period I kept quotes all over my desk and when I thought that a quote needed a constant reminder I would frame it and put it on my desk. In times of difficulty I would review my quotes, derive comfort, and move in the right direction.
One of my favourite quotes:
"100 years from now, it will not matter what kind of car you drove,
what kind of house you lived in, how much you had in your bank
account, or what your clothes looked like, But the world maybe a
little better because you were important in the life of a child."
One of the many functions of the kidneys are to remove excess fluid from the body. When that function is lost and dialysis is being done then the weight gained between treatments are considered excess fluid accumulated and that is the amount removed during dialysis.
When too much fluid is removed cramping occurs and when there is too much fluid in the body it can go to the lungs and cause difficulty breathing.
The way to avoid cramping is to not have too much fluid removed or not to drink too much.
When one has gained weight and not gained excess fluid that can cause too much fluid removal, which can cause cramping. (Keep in mind this is not a diet and it is not the way to lose weight).
It is best to have less than 2 kg removed during the week and less than 3 kg on weekends.
This is extremely difficult as all foods that melt (such as ice cream, frozen treats, juices, water)and foods that contain a lot of liquid (such as soup) are considered liquids. This means that one has to be vigilant with their fluid intake. Also, when one stays within 2-3 kg of removal the
body recovers much better after dialysis and you don't tend to get that run down feeling.
I came across this amusing and fun song about cramping. I
don't know who wrote the
This song is sang to the tune of "Are you Lonesome tonight"
ARE YOU CRAMPING TONIGHT
ARE YOU CRAMPING
ARE YOUR MUSCLES
ARE YOU SAD THAT
DOES YOUR MEMORY
TO THOSE MORE HEALTHY
WHEN YOU COULD DRINK AS MUCH
AS YOU PLEASED
DO YOU SIT BY YOUR LOVED ONES
DO YOU TRY NOT TO BUG THEM
THEY SEE YOU THERE
IS YOUR LIFE DIFFERENT
HAVE YOU LESS FUN SOMEHOW
TELL ME DEAR ARE
My first lover shattered my beliefs about loving a man. It took many years to recover from that pain. Today, I am surrounded with love and at peace with myself.
(Excerpt from SUNRISE FROM AN ICY HEART)
Love is like the heat of summer, the passion of Romeo and Juliet, the seductiveness of Cleopatra, the anticipation of a new spring, the feel of a burning fire, the vibrancy of the fall leaves, the warmth of a coat in the winter, all rolled into a heart with everything fitting into place like a completed jigsaw puzzle.
One of the many books I like is BRIDGES OF MADISON COUNTY
A love story----Very powerful. A bored housewife who had four days of sensual loving. Although she felt movements in her body that were dormant for so long she refused to disrupt her family to answer to her quivering body and deny herself a love that would remain in the memory banks of her mind. Her lover likewise, a loner who travelled doing photography and never again felt the sensation he received that four days in 1962.
They died with their memories.
A true love story full of emotion. Makes you cry reading their story.
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